Friday, 31 October 2014

Connecting with Culture

Connecting with Culture
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When doing business with people outside your home country or culture, do your utmost to gain an understanding of best practices, customs, and protocols. Simply knowing how to behave in a manner that is polite and respectful will ensure that you establish a basic level of human understanding. Just remember that what is polite in one culture may not be in another.

Sometimes your best resource for this is closer than you think, as I learned the first time when doing business in China.  I had the opportunity to work on a project that included the executive team from a Chinese company, as well as the local and regional government officials from their city. Having never worked in this part of the world before, and being under severe time constraints, I needed a crash course in etiquette, practice, and communication. As well as needing to understanding the hierarchy, interaction, and status that had to be observed with the officials and their team. And... none of them spoke English, so everything would be done through an interpreter.

When asking my associates how to tackle this challenge, I was very fortunate to be connected to a member of the Chinese Student Society at a local University. He was most gracious in guiding me through the formality of the business negotiations, gave me a quick, intensive understanding of the underlying social observances, and most importantly, accompanied me to the after dinner food and drink where the real trust building happened, and the business objectives achieved.

Find someone that has already made the connection between the two cultures, and learn from them. You don't have to travel to learn about a foreign business environment. You can engage people in your own community to connect on a deeper level, learn more about their world experience, and perhaps allow them into your world as well.



No substitute for experience.

No substitute for experience.
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The most important thing a mentor can provide is real experience. Finding someone that has been through what you are going through is of incalculable value. 

The mentor that has gone through the challenge you are facing can tell you what worked and what didn't, what succeeded or failed, what they tried, what they didn't, and why. But more importantly they can tell how it felt to go through it. The emotional impact of the challenges you face as an entrepreneur is rarely discussed, but can often be the single greatest factor in whether you come through it successfully or not. Do you feel overwhelmed? Do small problems become seemingly insurmountable? Can you discern whether a specific problem is as big as you think it is? Do you feel like you are going through this alone? Do you feel like the people around you don't really understand what you're going through?

Find a mentor that has faced the challenges that you have. Whether they have faced them and won, or faced them and failed, there are things you can learn from what happened, how they dealt with it, and most important, how they balanced how they felt while they were going through it. 

Too often as business owners, entrepreneurs, and startup teams, we rely far to heavily on theory, third hand knowledge, outside opinion and criticism. But someone who has never faced your challenge cannot tell you what it's like to go through it. Find the mentor with real experience and you will be best equipped to face the emotional aspects of your business with confidence, calm, and focus.

There is no substitute for experience.


Wednesday, 24 September 2014

Listen First

Talking second means you'll start by knowing what to say, not guessing.

The theme for this month's Futurpreneur stories was "Talking About Your Business", asking for discussion on pitching versus dialogue, selling versus story-telling, when does pitching work, when it doesn’t work, knowing your audience and what’s important to them, developing relationships, and soliciting feedback about your business.

The answer to all of these is to listen. Listen first, listen often, and listen with awareness.

Consciously listening with an intent to understand the other person is the easiest, fastest, and by far the best way to build a path to establishing rapport and knowing whether you have the means necessary to engage them and bring them into your circle.

Listen to what your potential target is saying before you speak. Ask a simple leading question or two if you have the opportunity. Pay attention to what their body language is telling you. And try to gather as much possible information about them before you start down your trajectory. You will be surprised by how much you can glean from things like how they hold themselves, how they interact with others, and how they interact with you before you begin.

Are they in a hurry, or are they calm and relaxed? This will tell you if you have the time to actually talk in depth about your business, or if you just need to give them the 10 second spiel. Are they looking happy and engaged, or is there anger/fear/unease in their face? Maybe they are facing a challenge in their own work in this moment, and now is not the time to talk about your business at all. Did they mention something about their kids? Maybe the best way to engage them is as a parent first, and then the business.

Listening first allows you to actively gather information, and then strategically plan the content of your delivery, and the ideal way to deliver it. It gives you the opportunity to find a way to connect directly with your target, and engage them in a way that is meaningful, memorable, and will lead to the next conversation.


Wednesday, 6 August 2014

Just Business - is not an excuse.

Just Business - is not an excuse.

I am in a transitional generation. I have the unique and fascinating opportunity to be on the cusp of a transformational shift in business. It is a privilege to be part of a dramatic change in how people do business, and how people value the individuals they do business with. The typical older generation has been led to believe, and internalized, that the pursuit of wealth is the ultimate goal, at any expense. That the pursuit of money automatically negates any concern for the well being of individuals or communities. That somehow outright greed will lead to prosperity for all. The typical younger generation is often split between those that have accepted the indoctrination of the standard business model, and those that strive to be better, think differently, and want to build stronger companies in a moral business environment.

Of course, I am speaking generally. I know many people in business my age and older that are ethical, moral people, and choose to be ethical, moral business people. I also know people my age and younger that have embraced the money at any cost ethos to the point where there is no thought or consideration for what is right. My point is that the people who choose the path of making decisions solely for personal gain are in the fading twilight of a business culture that will eat itself out of existence. I strive to connect with, and actively seek out, business people that are making a conscious choice to be better, to step out of the current model and contribute to building this new paradigm of business thought.

The idea of a corporation being a distinct and separate entity allows for the creep of separateness and space between the actions of the company and the actions of the individuals within it. While the executives, officers, managers, and employees may profess an ethical standard as individuals, that ethical standard can falter or fail if the values of the business are based solely on profit, ROI, and pandering to the short term demands of day to day shareholders. The long term effects of living and working in this head space seem to then also creep into the minds of the individual. When it is OK for the business to do whatever is necessary to deliver profit, why shouldn't it then also be OK for an individual to do the same.

I have been in countless meetings with lawyers, accountants, executives, boards of directors, and many, many personal conversations with acquaintances and colleagues where a question of ethics, morality, right, or simple, plain decency comes down to the answer; "Well, that's just business."

Just business. What does that mean?

"I wouldn't do that if he was my friend, but this is just business." 
"She's going to lose everything, but she should know, it's just business."

Too often, the words "just business" are an excuse to set aside personal morals for business gains.

Is it a justification for action already taken? Is it an excuse for something that is going to happen? Is it that as a culture, we accept that while we collectively agree that harming another person is wrong, there is an exception if the harm is perpetrated in the interests of money? Is it that the end truly does justify the means in business? Are the ethical and moral standards that we ascribe to that easily set aside, qualified, or excused?

These are not simple questions. These are questions that will dictate the survival and success of not only modern economic prosperity, but the quality of who we are as people and how we live within our communities. These are questions that we should all ask ourselves when we consider the choices we make. I have asked these questions of myself, and the answer is, No.

I have directly and deeply felt the impact of what happens when someone makes a decision that negatively impacts me in business. It is especially more traumatizing when the actions are taken in direct opposition to what that person's stated ethical standards were.

I have made business decisions that were the right thing to do, but that had a massive negative impact on me personally and financially. And I have learned, to my detriment, that if I hold others to my ethical standard, I will be disappointed.

I have been in a partnership where I invested everything. My time, energy, focus, and will. And money. I spent years working with these people in a business with the potential for a fantastic return, and the potential to make a significant impact on the world. I chose to bring them into the opportunity because they professed a vision that matched mine. I chose to build relationships with them because they professed a similar approach to business. A belief in the value of people, business, and the world that would lead to choices that were intended to make the world better, and be financially successful in the process. A belief that the long term viability was paramount, even at the cost of setting aside a short term payout. I believed that what they said is what they would do. 

Because I believed this of them, I made immense sacrifices to ensure the success of the venture. Two years into the project, I got an offer - Leave my current partners and go with a new partner. I'd get a bigger piece of the business, and a cheque for my trouble that would allow me to be completely debt free and live comfortably for the next ten years. But I would have to cut my current partners out of everything to do it. I never even considered it. I told her that my partners and I had a long term vision for the success of the project, that we were in it together, and I would not sacrifice them for any price. 

Fast forward a year, and my partners forced me out of the project in order to take a short term payout. They sacrificed the business, the long term vision, the potential for change, and me, my work, my effort, and my vision - for money. 

What I had failed to understand was that while these partners had used words and signed their names to agreements committing to a moral and ethical standard, it had not been tested in reality. When the money shined it's light on the dark corners, the true nature of greed's ability to overpower words was revealed. When I asked one of the partners why he had chosen to make this decision, he said "It's just business." Just business. I wouldn't have thought that 20 years of friendship and 3 years of work together had a price tag. 

One of my business mentors asked me, "Are you disappointed that you didn't take the deal?" It's a difficult question. But the answer is no. Although the money, and the stability and security it would have brought would have been nice, it was still the right decision, even in light of what has happened since. I am fortunate to have learned what the price of my integrity is. I know with absolute clarity, down to the dollar, what my word is worth. 

And, again, I know the risk of placing my trust in others. 

Business ethics are forged, and ethics are only ideals until they are tested. The key is to find and work with others that have had their beliefs tested, and successfully come through with a deep understanding of the quality of their character.

There are challenges in holding these type of values when living and working in a system that does not share them. Having a strong moral and ethical approach to business can lead to others either perceiving it as a weakness, to be taken advantage of, or manipulated. This should not change you, but you should be aware of how others may alter their work with you because of it. In an interaction with another individual with the same beliefs, values, and ethics, you can be free, open, and honest and move quickly and efficiently to progress. In an interaction with individuals that are on different levels there is a necessity for caution, awareness, and perhaps even healthy dose of wariness.

The ability to make moral decisions is based on context and knowledge. We must have an understanding of the environment that we make these decisions in, and a solid grasp of the impact these decisions have on ourself, and others. 

By holding others to my personal standards I will inevitably be disappointed by those that fail to meet them. But I will also be encouraged and fulfilled by those that exceed them. In the end, it comes down to trust. I must continue to trust that the people I do business with believe what I believe, share what I value, and will maintain an equal integrity when challenged. I have to trust that if I stand for what I believe, and prove it through the decisions that I make, and the actions I take, I will continue to draw those with a similar outlook into my circle. The more that like minded business people gather, the easier it becomes to do quality business, and the more momentum builds towards a business environment where we can thrive without sacrificing what is right.





Thursday, 10 July 2014

Clarity, Purpose, and Focus. Part 1 - Clarity is the key to understanding.

Clarity, Purpose, and Focus are the tools that I use for the basis of every decision I make. They are the foundation for every action I take, and every challenge I pursue.

Clarity is taking the time and making the effort to deeply understand the necessary information. Purpose is clearly stating why you want to do it. And Focus is acting based on the clarity and the purpose to achieve the goal.

Stepping into any new project is daunting. Taking on a new job, building a new opportunity, launching a new venture. Every time you step out of your comfort zone and take on a new challenge you are forced to make the the most of the information you have, determine what has value and what needs to be set aside, and make decisions that have long term impact. In order to make the best possible decisions, you must take the time to have a complete understanding of both the overall picture, and the smallest detail. And the picture must be seen through the clearest, cleanest lens.

The allegory of a clear pond is cliche. But it is an often used example with good reason. It is the simplest, most familiar way to create understanding with people so that they truly feel what it is to see clearly. Water is the perfect medium to demonstrate the idea of clarity because it is so changeable, moveable, and malleable. It is easily manipulated, but difficult to control. It can be altered by what is in it, and what is around it. And it can deceive your perception. Often the surface is more of a mirror, than a window into what truly lies beneath, but that's a story for another day.

To me, clarity is all about questions. Asking the right questions will quickly give you the answers you need. Asking the wrong ones can lead to wasted time, wasted effort, and perhaps to failure. Can you see the bottom? Can you see how deep it is? Does what is on the surface tell you what is below? Is the bottom really the bottom, or is what you can see merely a cover? Is there anything in the water that should concern you? Can you see enough to make that decision? If you can't see enough, are you going to make a decision regardless? How much does the visibility determine the risk? Is the water naturally still, or is it circumstance in the moment that causes this quick glimpse? Can you take the time to come back and look again, or this the only chance you'll get? Questions are the key to understanding, which is the only path to clarity.

My wife and I are very focused on getting the kids outdoors and active early in the day. Five or six days a week we get them out to a park, for a hike, to the beach, for a swim, or sometimes just a walk around the neighborhood. It allows them to connect and ground themselves, play together, burn off excess energy, and easily sets the tone for the rest of the day.

Today we were at the beach, and my daughter Cameron, 6, found some minnows that she decided she would like to catch. She grabbed her bucket, waded into the water, settled in quietly and patiently, and carefully swept her bucket up behind the fish to see what she could catch. The water this morning was particularly calm, crystal clear, and the visibility was amazing. You could see right to the bottom, even several metres out. Cameron could easily see the tiny fish swimming around her legs, and with a bit of concentration quickly caught a few minnows for her and her brothers to see up close.

After her second successful catch and release, a boat with a wake boarder rode by, sending waves rolling in to the shore. She looked up and said, "Dad, I am being still and patient, but the waves are distracting, and its hard to focus." I asked what she could do to make it work better, and she said "I'll just wait until it settles, and then I'll be able to see again." She didn't know that I was just writing about water, clarity, and understanding, but she absolutely cemented a key idea for the work. With her six year old insight she was able to contribute a concept that added some additional clarity to my writing.

Even when the water is clear, and you are focused on your goal, outside influence can cloud your perception. The trick is recognizing the waves, and either waiting it out, or compensating for the change, while staying on task and aware of the outcome.


Ben Beveridge
Inspiring Excellence Inc.
VP, Business Development


Mentor, Futurpreneur Canada




Tuesday, 24 June 2014

I Start With Why - Simon Sinek fundamentally changed the way I live, work, and play.

I Start With Why.
Simon Sinek fundamentally changed the way I live, work, and play.

Today I saw the new Simon Sinek TED Talk on leadership. It is his second talk, this time digging more deeply into the meaning and function of leadership and the way leaders define organizations. As usual, these connections and discoveries happen with purpose, and this topic happens to be completely appropriate and synchronous with what I am working on now.

I want to share how I was introduced to Simon and his insights into human behaviour, and how it has massively impacted everything I do.

Sometimes we are gifted with moments that define our way of being. For some people this is a religious or faith experience. For others a moment of enlightenment or understanding, or perhaps a connection or relationship that alters our life at a basic level. For those that are open, aware, and seeking, it can be any combination of these moments, or, if you are focused on possibility, maybe even a weekly or daily occurrence. Transcendence, illumination, elucidation... all words that describe a shift in thought that brings greater clarity, purpose, and focus. For me, Start With Why was one of those moments.

I first watched Simon present on the Golden Circle in 2010. It was one of the first TED talks I experienced. Being new to the format I wasn't sure what to expect, and the quality of the video and audio of this early TEDx conference didn't inspire a lot of confidence. That changed as Simon delved into the material. Although I wouldn't describe his idea as groundbreaking or revolutionary, his ability to portray it in a way that was accessible and meaningful certainly was. He was able to distill the concept down to it's most basic tenets, and give concrete examples of why it works in real life. He spoke to me in a way that broke through my perceptions and allowed the seed for change to be implanted in my brain.

It took me a long time to internalize and understand how to make real changes to my way of thinking. To realize that I had to alter both my perception and my reactions in all situations. That I had to not only understand my why, but also the why of the people around me, before I would be able to have a real effect on the outcome of all of my relationships.

I don't recommend people, books, places, or things to my circle lightly. I am keenly aware of the value of my friends' time and space, and I never introduce something into their world that isn't meaningful. There are only two books that I have bought and given away dozens of copies to others. Start With Why is one of them.

This book has made me better in business. It's made me more effective, more aware, more mindful, and more powerful. It has made me a better person, a better partner, and a better parent. It is one of the few insights I have recognized that drastically and deeply changed my perception of the world, and made me better equipped to live in it.



Friday, 13 June 2014

Inspiring Excellence - Choosing to lead by living what you believe.

I believe that inspiring excellence in an individual builds a stronger leader. Inspired leaders build stronger teams, which build stronger companies. Stronger companies contribute to stronger communities, which build better individuals.

I believe that only by working to be exceptional can we expect to achieve greatness. This requires choosing to take the small step every day that will deliver the end result we seek, whether it's days, months, or years in the future.

Leading by taking the first step towards mastery means that others can see that we choose to do what it takes to reach a goal, not just that we reached it. People often see a successful person and feel that the distance between where they are now and where the successful person is, is too far to travel. But if the successful person is leading by allowing people to see their small, everyday steps, people can have a better understanding that the potential of success is not only possible, but do-able.

I know what it feels like to be exceptional at something. I can say with an absolute lack of humility that in my small piece of the musical world, there are maybe a handful of people that are as good as me at what I do. What humbles me is how much I have to learn to be as good at everything else. And it takes work. I played a show this week and someone in the audience came up to me after and said, "It must be nice to have so much talent." It is. It's great to have been given a gift to hear and understand the motive power and grace of music, and be able to feel the emotion that it brings to life. But it has also required 30 years of dedication to get to where I am, and I will probably spend another 30, or 40, or 50 years working on it and never being satisfied. And it's sometimes the smallest things that take the greatest effort, that give me the most fulfillment. A student at a workshop recently commented on how well I played a passage in a particularly difficult tune, and that it looked so easy. She was surprised to learn that to make it look easy took hours and hours of playing a four bar phrase to get it as perfect as I could. 

Peak performance requires work, time, effort, sacrifice, suffering (sometimes), and a commitment to excellence that I still have to choose to make every single day. I don't know anyone, at any level, in any field, that just IS great at what they do. They choose to do what it takes to BE great in every moment. And when they falter, fail, or just simply don't do their best in that moment, they choose to be great the next day. It is simply, always, and only about what you choose to do next that matters. What you choose to do in the next moment determines what your life is and will be.

By choosing to work towards greatness more days than I haven't, by risking failure, and by surviving the brutal failures, I have learned to recognize the value of time, effort, faith, ethics, and belief in others on the same path, and to determine the truth of the quality of people by the choices they make.

I have been offered some amazing opportunities this year, jobs in Calgary, Vancouver and Toronto. But part of living what you believe is to choose to excel in the environment you want to exist in. And because of the people, the land, and the community, my family has chosen to live in the Okanagan. The story about how I was able to find a position I love, in the place I want to be, is for another day. But I will share my feelings on synchronicity if you're curious enough to ask.

I am both proud and excited to join Inspiring Excellence Inc. as VP, Business Development.

Inspiring Excellence is a formidable leadership training and team building group in Kelowna, BC that works with sports, corporate, non-profit, and individual clients, with a focus on critical thinking, conflict resolution, and communication. I am new to this world of specialized training and I want to learn as much as I can about how I can best influence change for the better in people's lives. I invite you to connect with me and tell me your stories about leadership, training, team building, coaching, and experiential learning. What has worked for you. What didn't. I want to hear about experiences horrible, amazing, or just plain boring. I will gratefully accept all the help I can get, to do my best work at building this company to it's next level of greatness.

With this new opportunity I am dramatically expanding my circle of genius. I am in awe of the people in this group. They represent a quality and a dedication to personal motivation, ethics, morality, business acumen, and absolute excellence in life and work that I am humbled to be a part of. Look at the people around you. These people that you spend your time with, are the person you will become. I aspire to become the people I am privileged to work with. I am honoured to be with people that share my vision for clear communication, visionary thinking, and good business.

I am inspired to learn, explore, grow, and expand my knowledge. To better understand the mechanics and function of teams, players, groups, and companies. To engage with other people that want to be better. And to help share the tools that will allow people to exist in their own realms more effectively, comfortably, and with strength, power, and skill.

I will inspire leaders to understand and implement a better way of doing business. I will inspire teams to work better together. I will inspire individuals to build strong foundations for achieving their own greatness. And I will choose to lead, by living what I believe.

If you have any suggestions, comments, questions or stories please connect with me. I am looking forward to the conversation, looking forward to the new knowledge and experience I will gain, looking forward with my head up and my eyes open, to see the challenge, the possibility, and the opportunity. I get to do what I do best, help people achieve things they never thought possible.


Ben Beveridge
Inspiring Excellence Inc.
VP, Business Development

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